How to know if your partner cheats you

We already know that flirting online is much easier than in person. But also that he lies a little more. That does not mean that if you have managed to have a stable partner thanks to I will cheat you by default. Things are a little more complicated.

How do I know if my partner cuckolds me?

As a general rule, if you ask yourself this question, you are suspicious for two reasons: either you have reasons, or you are a jealous person.

The signs that your partner is cheating vary in each case, but there are some common evidences that you can detect.

Let me tell you one thing: if you have never been a particularly jealous person and now you are beginning to suspect, you must pay attention to your intuition.

In some articles I have already talked about that, as in “How to break with your girlfriend” . Intuition is something powerful, but ungraspable and fleeting.

You have to learn to listen to it because it is your subconscious struggling to become conscious.


It was your better half, the woman or the man who completed you, your soul mate. You managed to bind with the last of your shoe, so you can not believe that now you are being unfaithful .

Well, if many of these signs are given, you should have a conversation with your partner.

1.Improve your appearance.

If your partner starts doing sports, eating well, dressing better and things like that or trying to like you or a third party more.

It is very rare for someone to change their habits without a specific purpose. You may even be the same or the same as always, but when you go to work or certain events, it will be overly fixed, compared to your usual way of doing it.

2. Secret use of the phone or computer.

Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more often than before and protect them as if their lives depended on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never needed a password before, and now they have it, it’s not a good sign.

If your partner suddenly starts erasing texts and cleaning your browser history every day, it’s not a good sign.

If your partner never gives up the possession of your phone, even if you take it to the bathroom is not a good sign.

If you ask to check your partner’s phone and they say no, that’s a problem too. Honestly, what could there be, apart from the information about your surprise birthday, that you would want to keep secret?

Anyway there are people very jealous of their privacy. So keep that in mind. What is strange is that he changes his way of being suddenly.

3. Periods in which your partner is unattainable .

If your partner cheats you, he is less likely to answer your calls and answer your text messages.

You may hear excuses that sound legitimate: I’m in a meeting, I was driving, I was in an area without coverage, I did not know you were trying to get in touch.

If your partner is not available while working late or on a business trip, it’s a bad sign.

4. Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship .

Both the decrease and increase in levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity.

Less sex occurs because your partner is spending his energies and his libido on another person; More sex happens because he’s trying to cover up that.

Another possible sign of deception is that the sex that you and your partner are having is that you notice less emotional connection.

Another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life.

As much as you enjoy it, you may be learning new tricks outside of your relationship.

5. Your partner is hostile to you and your relationship.  

The unfaithful person tends to rationalize his behavior in his own mind. One way he does this is to blame you.

He says to himself that he does not feel like when he married you, or that you are not daring enough in the bedroom, or that you do not appreciate all the wonderful things he does for you, so he deserves to have an affair. Often their internal justifications for deception are filtered and reach the relationship.

If suddenly it seems that nothing you do is right, or that things that previously did not bother your partner suddenly do, it could be indicative of something happening.

6. An altered schedule .

When your partner, who has never worked late, suddenly needs it and that fact begins to happen more and more often, he may be lying.

If your spouse has never gone on a business trip and suddenly finds the need to travel for work, that could be a sign that he has a weekend getaway with a co-worker.

Punctured tires, exhausted batteries, traffic jams, spending more time in the gym and other similar excuses for being late or absent could also be a sign of infidelity.

A cheating partner can also suddenly forget to pick up children, birthdays and other important events, etc.

7. Friends seem uncomfortable around you .

With infidelity, you, the betrayed person, are almost always the last person to find out.

The friends of the infidel often know of infidelity from the beginning, and it is likely that your own friends will find out long before you do.

So it is very likely that everyone feels uncomfortable around you. The friends of the infidel may try to avoid you or be too kind to you. The same with your own friends.

If friends are common, this multiplies. The most probable thing is that the cake will be discovered soon.

8. Unexplained expenses.

Charges on the cards, less money in the savings account, etc … If you ask your partner about these expenses and their answers seem false, it is likely that they are.

Infidelity costs money: gifts, trips, dinners, hotel rooms, etc. If you see large cash withdrawals or evidence of purchases in places that you rarely or never frequent, again, it is not a good sign.

9. There is no emotional intimacy anymore.

After a few years, no relationship is as intense as it was in the first few months.

That said, we learn to bond securely over time, learning to trust each other with our secrets, desires, and other important aspects of our lives.

This process is known as the construction of emotional intimacy. And emotional intimacy is what keeps us close to our loved ones long after the falling in love.

Therefore, if your partner suddenly seems less intimately emotional, that is a clear indication that you have changed, most likely because of an extramarital affair.

10. When you ask if you are being unfaithful, your partner defends himself by diverting attention.

If your partner cheats on you, the last thing you want to do is talk to you about it. In short, he will do everything possible to guide you to another topic, or he will turn the tables on you to blame you if you discover everything.  

If you ask about infidelity and you answer with something like: “If you trust a little more in me, maybe things would be better between us”, is manipulating you.  and you should not allow that to nullify your intuition that something is wrong in your relationship.

Nor should you automatically accept your partner’s claim that you are at fault.

As indicated above, if your instinct tells you that your partner is cheating, you are probably right.

Important: sometimes appearances deceive.

Keep in mind that your partner may show one, several or all of the signs described above and still not be deceiving you, but they are still signs that something is wrong in your relationship.  

I may not be cheated on you, but you almost certainly should talk.

Anyway, the good news is that if your partner has been unfaithful does not mean that the relationship is over. Simply that your partner has a lot of work ahead to restore your confidence in him or her.

If you find out that your partner has had an adventure, I suggest you do not stay alone with that information.

Talk to trusted friends or a couple therapist. Do not see yourself alone with the feelings, contradictory and bitter, that will overwhelm you.

And if nothing has an arrangement?

If the relationship is so deteriorated as to have to cut, do not worry. In due time (each person is different) you can enter and find exactly what you are looking for.

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