It is found, it forges ties with him, you feel close to him but how do we know he loves us?How can we know if he is really interested in our whole person and that it is not just a temporary attraction? So many questions that work before things come to fruition, but also at the beginning and sometimes even throughout a romantic relationship. If of course the best solution would be to ask him directly, there still are some signs you can spot in your relationship to see where is he is in his feelings towards you. It is up to you to spot these signs and understand them. You just have to be careful not to interpret them to see them one way or the other.
Know if he loves you – Read in him!
The best way to know what he feels for you is to teach him in him, that is to say to know how to read in his eyes and in his gestures. To achieve this, you will have to learn to trust what you feel but also to be careful not to interpret things too much. To avoid this, think of his looks and gestures when you are in a quiet, restful place. Avoid thinking about it after a bad day or when you have quarreled with this man: you would tend to take everything wrong. If you really fear not being objective in your judgment, ask a trusted friend what she thinks, what she may have noticed special. Wait until she has given you her opinion before giving you yours so as not to influence her . It is often said that the look is the mirror of the soul, that is what you will check by learning to read in his eyes. A simple look can say many things: joy, sadness, disdain but also love and passion. To find out what feelings his eyes express, you should not scrutinize him intently, his eyes riveted on him, analyzing him as an object of study. It would mostly make you feel uncomfortable and find your behavior very strange. Try to feel his feelings through the looks you catch. Keep in mind also that it may be on you the most tender looks when you do not see it. An expression of tenderness, even if it is not devouring passion, is already a very good sign.
Gestures are more easily controlled and we do not all have the same habit of proximity with each other. It is therefore necessary to learn to read his gestures according to his personal habits. Is he usually very close to other women? Very tactile? Or it is a rather remote temperament when it comes to a physical approach ? It is with this grid of understanding that you will be able to launch yourself objectively in the reading of his gestures. Find the marks of affection and tenderness he carries you. If these gestures that could be those of a best friend are related to gestures that make you feel the desire that he has for you, it is that he most certainly has feelings for you. A man in love will want you physically. The two types of gestures must therefore be mixed.
What he does and what he says will tell you whether he loves you, or not…
So that you can get your opinion and know if he loves you, you have to spend time with him. If he has feelings for you, he will naturally seek to see you, that you do both things. But you may not have the same desire and the same way of spending time together: while you are rather out with friends and in love, to do special things, he will simply be happy to see you, in daily life , Without doing anything special. Or the opposite. In any case it is necessary to know what makes him envy in order not to misinterpret the things. Nevertheless, if he loves you and you do not have the same cravings for the time you spend together, he will make efforts to make you happy and do what you love.
During these moments, whether you are with friends or both, on your way out or at home, you can feel your feelings at best. This is because of his closeness to you, by what he does, but also by his words and the way he talks about you.For example, does he have special attentions for you? They can be as banal as to leave you the most pleasant and touching place with a small word, a small present or something that he knows will please you. This will also be valid throughout your relationship . The small attentions are what allow us to show, to confirm our love for the other, to show that we hold to him and that we think of him, that we want to please him.
What he says is also important: when he promises you something, like an outing, does he really do it? When talking about you, what vocabulary does he use? Does he have a different speech, special when he speaks to you? Does he have any particular intonations? All this will enable you to detect his feelings.But it is not only the way of saying that is important, the content of your discussions is also important. Does he confide in you? Does it allow you to gain a little more access to its secret garden, to know it better and understand it better? Of course, not everybody is very good at talking about oneself but love makes you want to share personal things. It takes sometimes only a little time, so that trust is truly established between you.
He respects you = He loves you (well almost …)
This last point is essential: a person who loves you is someone who respects you. He should not seek to change you, nor make you do things that you do not want to do. If he loves you, it is entirely. It is certain that sometimes your defects can irritate him, you are not perfect, for his greatest happiness. But he should not seek to change you. If he likes you he will try to discuss things that are not going with you, so that everyone will make efforts and compromises to make things happen. It is not up to either to make the effort and adapt, these are things to which you must both take part.
This is especially noticeable for established couples. If you are not together yet and you want to know your feelings, respect is also important. That can go through the way he talks about you, his intonations, his phrases. But it passes, as if you were in a couple, by the acceptance of your person, in the totality.With your qualities of course but also your small defects.
Likewise, whether you are together or not, it must respect your tastes, what you like to do. If you are used to associate with other boys, it can also allow you to discover his feelings: a man in love is often a jealous man . Of course this should not be sickly but a little bit of jealousy from time to time will show you it holds to you. As long as he leaves you to frequent the people you want and respect your friendships, this is not a problem. Respect also depends on the confidence it has in you.